..By the time Martha came
to me, she had already taken herself off of all medications and
was fairly embittered by the
entire psychiatric community. While
I don’t like to encourage people to resist using medications that
they need, I agreed that Martha’s case might not have anything
at all to do with mental illness. We worked on shielding techniques for
when she was in crowds. I taught her to ground and center, and, most
importantly, I taught her how to identify the difference between an emotion
that was coming from inside of her as opposed to an emotion that she
was psychically picking up from other people in her environment. Martha
is what I identify as an empath – a person who is able to psychically
pick up impressions of other peoples’ emotions.
..I know
a lot of empaths who worry that they might have social anxiety
disorders or that
they are bipolar, because of those radical mood shifts. The first and
most important thing to help someone like Martha to identify the difference
is to help them discover those boundaries between inside the self and
outside the self. If a person can identify the source of an emotion
as something originating from outside of them, and then they
can use techniques
to block that emotion so they do not experience it unless they willingly
let it in, their problem isn’t psychiatric – it’s
psychic.
- At what
age were you awakened to your own psychic abilities and can
you reiterate
the details of this awakening?
..Before
I answer, let me clarify how I define awakening in relation to
psychic
abilities. I don’t place my awakening at that point in
time when I had my first psychic experience. Instead, I identify
awakening as that moment where I actually became aware that these
abilities were psychic – it’s that personal epiphany
where, in the space of one thought or one moment, the world seems
suddenly changed because one’s internal perspective is
changed. That being said, although I have seen spirits and had
precognitive dreams and tons of other experiences that others
would find extraordinary, my personal awakening came in stages
and it was influenced by a number of factors. In fourth grade,
I met another fourth grader named Pearl, who began teaching me
about dreamwalking and other techniques. I tell a lot of her
story in Psychic Dreamwalking, but the basics is that this other
girl seemed tuned in to something much bigger than either of
us, and she approached me because she had an intuitive sense
of my own abilities. I wrestled for many years with the validity
of what she taught me, partly because of my Catholic upbringing,
but also because of the strong influence psychology had on my
early life through an influential great aunt.
..I might have abandoned
Pearl’s teachings, but the next year, I had a
rare opportunity. My school system offered Saturday classes for gifted students
who wanted to explore specialized topics. I learned dissection quite early
through these courses as well as very early computer programming (we
were working on Vic 20s, to give you an idea!). Well, that year, they
were offering parapsychology,
lead by the father of one of the teachers in the school system who was himself
an investigator.
..I wish
I could remember the name of the instructor, but I will never
forget the lessons he gave. We explored the concepts
of clairaudience and clairsentience,
played with Rhine cards and dowsing rods, and learned basic ghost-hunting
techniques through the study of such pioneers in the field as Harry Price.
We even played
around with capturing EVP (electronic
voice phenomenon). The scientific
aspect of the work really appealed to my skeptical side
and it helped to provide
a context for some of Pearl’s experiential techniques. I already
knew by then that I was psychic, but having results with various tests
that could help
to verify that fact gave me confidence to further explore my gifts. ..Although all of this
helped to influence my awareness of my gifts, I don’t
officially mark my awakening until I reached a point in high school. I
cannot remember what day it was, but sometime in my sophomore
year, I started to suspect
that I was doing something “weird” to peoples’ energy.
I was an avid reader of horror, science fiction, and fantasy, so the icon
of
the vampire was not unknown to me. This led me to tentatively identify
what I was doing as vampirism, even though I understood that I was neither
undead
nor immortal in any classic, physical sense. Becoming aware of that darker
side of my psychic talents was the real awakening for me, because once
the realization sank in, it changed the way I looked at everything. As
long as
my talents were in those safe and socially acceptable realms of mediumship
and aura reading, I could get away with waffling back and forth in my stance
about their legitimacy. But psychic vampirism – the inborn capacity
to take energy from others – that demands both awareness and responsibility.
So, in the end, despite many previous experiences and even some fairly
intense training, I do not feel that I completely awakened to my abilities
until that
point in high school when I realized that they had a real and undeniable
impact upon the world around me.
- How would you
describe your own unique psychic abilities?
..I’m
sensitive to what most people would call psychic energy. This
encompasses
a lot of things. I can pick up lingering emotions and impressions
on objects and I pick up a lot from places as well – not
just hauntings, but the emotional energy and psychic impressions
that living people tend to leave behind. I get such constant
input on this level that it’s just another natural sense
to me. I walk into a place and process my psychic impressions
with about the same effort that I process the color of the wallpaper
and the scent of the potpourri.
..As an energy
sensitive, I’m also essentially a spirit
medium, since spirits
are comprised entirely of energy. The thoughts transmitted through telepathy
and the emotions transmitted through empathy are all carried upon energy,
and so I can pick up on these as well. I seem better at picking
up emotions than
thoughts from random people I pass on the street. I get a lot more telepathic
input from people with whom I have established a conscious energetic connection.
Spirits use both of these methods to communicate, so I can communicate with
spirits fairly easily. To be honest, I spend more energy trying to ignore
them and block them out when I’m not in the mood to talk
to every dead person who wanders through my home …
..My awareness of peoples’ energy
also gives me a great deal of insight into their physical and
spiritual health. I’ve heard others who share
this kind of insight describe themselves as “medical intuitives.” I’ve
helped a couple of people catch cancer in its very early stages, and I
helped one man get preventative care for a condition that would otherwise
have led
to a heart attack. In addition to perceiving health issues, I can also
harness and manipulate energy in a variety of healing techniques. I can
do Reiki, although
I prefer using my own style of energy work to facilitate healing. It just
comes more naturally to me.
..There are a couple
of downsides to my abilities. First, like a lot of psychics,
I sometimes have a negative impact on
the energy of electronic devices.
On days where I’m feeling exceptionally tired or frazzled, I blow
out lightbulbs, drain batteries, interfere with television, radio, and
cellphone reception,
and sometimes make computers malfunction fairly severely. This effect
has been documented by several of the television crews that I’ve
worked with. A&E even worked the camera malfunction connected with
me into one of their documentaries. My psychic vampirism is one of the
other downsides. All of these
psychic abilities seem to require energy to fuel them, and I need a little
more fuel than most. That’s not the only factor in my psychic vampirism,
but it does have an influence on the level of my needs.
- What
would you say are the pros and cons of having abilities...
blessing or curse?
..There
are times when it’s hard to block all the impressions out.
This used to be especially true when I traveled to a new city,
where the
psychic
background noise was new to me. I’d spend the first few
days processing everything and feeling overwhelmed by it all,
until it grew familiar enough to become background noise again.
The impact I have on electronics has become almost legendary
among my circle of friends, and although we can laugh about it,
blowing up the electricalsystem in my car or my computer just
because I’m having a bad day can get expensive and seriously
irritating. ..And that’s to say nothing of my psychic
vampirism. I need
to regularly and actively take in human vital energy, partly
because I use so much psychic
energy to fuel my talents and partly because I essentially self-heal certain
serious physical conditions almost constantly (tachycardia/arrhythmia
being the worst of them). For whatever reason, I seem limited to human vital
energy for this self-healing, even though I am perfectly capable
of harnessing other
types of energy and using them to heal others (Reiki, for
example).
..There’s something a little broken in my physical and/or
energetic system, but I think this very flaw is what makes me so
extremely sensitive in the first
place. So, with that in mind, my abilities are both a blessing and a
curse – everything
I have comes with a price. Is it a price that I’m willing to pay?
Absolutely. I feel that I my experience of the world is more wondrous
and more profound
than what is open to many other people. And in many ways, that wonder
compels me to share that experience of the world with others. I see myself
as the
wound healer, the role so often ascribed to the shaman, for I have tasted
death and
I have come back changed, and my power comes from walking with one foot
in the realm of the living and one foot in the realm of the dead.
- Do
you tend to agree with the -Tibetan- or -Shamanistic- view
of the different realms?
..I’ve
tried to write a book without making a reference either to shamanic
techniques or to material I’ve gleaned from the Tibetan
Book of the Dead . However, both of these systems
are so influential to my worldview, that it’s proven impossible,
at least thus far. I find the maps of reality developed in both
of these
systems to be highly relevant to how I experience the world.
And, since the ancient shamans and the enlightened lamas of Tibet
took the time to explore that territory and enunciate it first,
I have little desire to reinvent the wheel, as it were. So, yes,
I agree very strongly with the way both of those systems
believe that reality works.
..There was something I read in Thurman’s translation of
the Tibetan Book of the Dead that has stuck with me always. In
the
commentary on the book, Thurman
points out that, according to the Tibetan view, if a medium could perceive
all of the spirits that exist on all of the levels of reality at once, he
or she would go insane. In explaining this further, he reveals
that, although
the Tibetans divide reality up into several different realms, they see all
of these realms as co-existing in the same space. Essentially, their worldview
is a multi-dimensional approach to reality, where all of the dimensions intersect
but do not typically interact.
..The shamanic view seems a little more separated than this,
at least when it’s
illustrated in terms of the World Tree, with the Celestial Realm, the Underworld,
and the Middle Realm. But from the writings of people like Mircea Eliade,
Holger Kalweit, and even Carlos Casteneda, it seems clear
that these distinctions
are at least somewhat artificial, and the many realms of the shaman do overlap
one another in much the same way the Tibetan realms overlap. In many ways,
the very attempt to express the difference in the realms is what leads to
the sense that they are different places and not different
perspectives or at least
layers of the same reality. In my experience of the spirit world, there are
farther reaches that exist somehow distant from the reality that we occupy
as living human beings. But there is also a point of overlap, so that a spirit
can be standing right in front of me, and the only difference is that he
is only present as energy in my space, while I am standing
there as a being of
both energy and flesh. Our worlds intersect, just not completely.
..I think modern readers might have a better sense of the difference
if they think of the realms as different frequencies. The
radio waves for every single
station are in the air all around us, but we cannot perceive those under
ordinary circumstances with our normal human senses. Instead, we have to
use a specialized
mechanism (the radio) and, further,
we have to tune that mechanism to a specific frequency in order to pick
up the information
carried on that frequency’s
waves. I think our psychic impressions of the “otherworld” or
the realms “beyond the veil” function much like our mundane
radio. First, we have to have a working receiver that is capable of tuning
in to the
right frequencies. Then, we have to have the ability to “tune
in” – for
psychics, this is the mental discipline that it requires to focus on one
impression over another.
..I believe that every human being has some ability to pick up
on these frequencies, but I am not so naïve as to
assert that everyone has the same level of ability. Some
of us are simply born with more receptive “radios” than
others, although practice and discipline can go a long way to supplement
our basic “machinery.”
- What
advice would you have for an empath who is struggling with being
burdened
with the ailments of others? What methods
of dealing with that would you suggest... in addition to
the grounding techniques in
your book?
..One
of the first things that someone who is sensitive should
learn to do is a
technique called shielding. Essentially, this is a combination
of energy work and creative visualization wherein you learn to
erect a barrier around yourself to keep unwanted energies out
of your realm of direct experience. In many ways, creating a
shield is just a matter of consciously erecting that bubble of
personal space that most of us observe consciously, then shoring
up its boundaries. Imagine yourself surrounded by a bubble of
energy. Now make that bubble real. That’s a basic shield. ..The problem with shielding, of course, is that the simplest
methods of shielding block everything out. Empaths and
psychics can find this stifling. I often
hear complaints from people who successfully shield only to feel as if they’re
walking around with their eyes closed and with cotton stuffed in their ears.
Why can shielding be a problem for people who are sensitive? Well, the self-same
energy that is overwhelming their perceptions is also the energy carrying
all their psychic impressions from the world around them. Shut off the energy
and
you shut off the flow of information. If you’ve never properly shielded
before, it is hard to appreciate just how much you process this constant
flow of information, just on an unconscious level. When all of that is suddenly
gone, there is silence that feels blessed at first, but then starts to feel
oppressive.
..The
solution is a technique that I call filtering. It’s
a little more advanced than shielding, and most people find it
easier to learn how to erect
a basic shield first before they play around with filtering. But a filter
is based on the same concept as a shield – imagine a barrier
that completely surrounds you, separating your energy from the
energy in the rest of the world.
The only difference is a filter should breathe. It should not be a static
boundary, but something open that allows for a controlled exchange
of energy. Think cheesecloth
or gauze or even a coffee filter. Some things get through. Others are kept
on the other side of the barrier. At advanced stages of visualization,
you can get very specific about what you do and do not want to
let in through a
filter, selectively protecting yourself against anger energy or the energy
of just one person who really gets on your nerves. In the case of an empath
who has to be around someone who is sick all the time, you could learn
to block out only the illness and its symptoms so you’re
not unconsciously taking these into yourself all the time.
- If
an empath comes in contact with a mentally disturbed person (i.e.
the criminally
insane, schizophrenic sociopaths), how might it affect
the empath -physically- or -mentally-?
..Sometimes
people in our culture toss around the word “crazy” a
little too casually. When someone expresses an opinion that’s
a little off the wall, there is always at least one person who
is quick to call them crazy. These people cannot possibly have
ever dealt with someone who truly suffers from a mental illness.
From my experiences, there is a very distinct feel to the energy
of
people who suffer from severe mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia.
If you are
a telepath or even an empath, this can be very discomfiting. There is a disordered
sense to these people, a chaos that is full of jagged edges and swirling voids.
At the very least, it makes your skin crawl. At its worst, it can start to
bleed over into your own consciousness, until you experience an echo of some
of their symptoms, descending into that swirling darkness with them. In some
cases, working with the mentally ill, I have felt physically sick around them,
especially if their particular illness has a violent or destructive component.
..I think
the most disturbing thing that I have experienced when exposed
to a schizophrenic is the fact that at least some
of the “hallucinations” she
was responding to were perceptible to me as spirits. It was clear that she
was also hallucinating, but she was also haunted, and witnessing this made
me wonder about the exact nature of her illness. Jungian psychologist Richard
Noll wrote a paper many years back comparing the experiences of the shaman
with the experiences of the schizophrenic, and in the end, he observed that
the line between them, at least from a psychological point of view, was very
thin. It came down to volition. A shaman can control trances and his journeys
into the other realms. A schizophrenic encounters spirits and demons with
neither the ability to control their perceptions nor the
ability to discern what may
or may not be real.
- Of
all the many talents you have, is there one in particular you are most
passionate about?
..I’m going
to read “passionate” here as “the
one I use the most” because I think I’m pretty passionate
about all of my talents, both the psychic and the mundane ones.
..I’m constantly processing the data carried on the energy
that I pick up from the people and places around me, but this is
as natural and as unconscious
as breathing, so I don’t think it counts. But I do a lot of out of
body work, and I do this very consciously. It’s not astral projection,
exactly. Instead, I identify the techniques I use as dreamwalking and bilocation.
Dreamwalking
uses lucid dreaming or the hypnagogic state to reach out to others in dreams
or vision states to communicate and interact. Bilocation, at least for me,
requires the hypnagogic state or a light trance state, and then I focus on
someone until I have strong perceptions of both where I am physically at
and where I am projecting my mental/energetic self.
..I find the out of body state so liberating, I will sometimes
do energy work on someone who is just in the other room
by projecting to them rather than
working on them in person. When I’m physically present, my physical
senses can sometimes obscure or detract from my subtle senses, whereas
when I’m
out of body, everything is translated on that subtle level of pure energy.
It’s so much easier. I have become notorious among my friends for
using out of body techniques to make contact with them rather than bother
with email
or even a phone call.
..The out of body work also facilitates my work with spirits.
Out of body, I can essentially meet with spirits on their
own turf. Liberated from the
flesh,
I’m essentially a spirit myself, and I find it much easier to communicate
with some of the ancestor spirits I work with when I’m in this
state. I feel that I get so much benefit and insight from my ability
to slip back
and forth between the world of flesh and the world of spirit that I’ve
been trying to come up with a system that lets others enjoy this freedom
as well. The system is detailed in a forthcoming book, Walking
the Twilight Path.
- What
is your view on mind altering substances in relationship to the donor
of ones psychic energy?
..I’m kind
of a prude where drugs are concerned. When we’re talking
about my own body, I’m unlikely to even take aspirin or
cold medicine, let alone anything that might influence my consciousness.
I frown on the use of mind-altering drugs in those close to me.
I’m especially strict with the people who provide energy
for me, because I’ve learned that some of the effects of
drugs and alcohol can translate through the energy. I don’t
think any of the physical components of the drugs can get passed
this way, but I’ve experienced a contact buzz from someone
who was drunk, and I had a fairly bizarre experience several
years ago when I fed off of someone who had taken a tab of Ecstasy.
Since then, I really try to avoid any significant interaction
with people who have mind altering drugs in their system. I just
don’t like the way they make me feel. I can block the effects
out, but that takes a certain amount of effort and, as the Ecstasy
experience taught me, if I slip up and let some through, I just
might lose the mental discipline that allows me to shield and
filter things in the first place.
- Do
you have any experience or personal views on hypnotherapy? (future
-V I S I O N S .Magazine Online-
article in the works on this topic)
..I have a friend,
Martin Riccardo, who works as a professional hypnotherapist,
and I’ve always been curious about the technique. I haven’t
had any direct experience with hypnotherapy myself, but I think
it can be a very useful technique. Of course, I’ve read
the arguments against its use, especially in matters of past
life recall and other lost memories. Detractors of the technique
suggest that all hynotherapists unconsciously lead their patients,
ultimately guiding them to implant false memories. While I think
it’s entirely possible to guide someone into creating a
memory, I believe that most hypnotherapists are both ethical
and skilled enough to know to avoid doing this. I doubt my own
ability to submit to the technique, however. I’m a very
strong-willed individual, and I tend to be just a little bit
of a control freak. So, were I to experiment with hypnotherapy,
I would have to work with someone like Marty, with whom I have
already established a good deal of trust. Like everything else
out there, I think it’s a tool that has good uses, and
it should be approached as such. Some people will find that they
prefer a wrench or a handsaw, while others will find that this
tool just cannot fix their particular problem. But that does
not invalidate its usefulness as a tool for others.
- It
was mentioned in your biography that you dealt with near death
experiences in your youth?
- Can
you elaborate on any of those experiences?
..I was born with
a life-threatening heart defect that required several major surgeries
to correct. I was expected to die before I was four if the problem
remained uncorrected, and although some stop-gap measures were
possible, what I really needed was open-heart surgery to implant
a Teflon patch between my two ventricles to repair the problem.
This surgery had to be put off until I was four and a half, because,
at the time, they did not have a heart-lung machine capable of
sustaining anyone under thirty pounds. The problem came to everyone’s
attention when I went into cardiac arrest at the age of six months.
I do not recall that NDE. However, there was another NDE connected
with one of my surgeries that I do recall, at least in that hazy
sort of way that one tends to recall experiences from early childhood.
I had been prepped for surgery and I was being wheeled into the
operating room. My mother and grandmother were closest to the
gurney, but I think other family members were there as well.
We had to wait for an elevator, I think, because we paused long
enough for me to catch the attention of a janitor. At least,
I’ll assume he was a janitor, since he was in a different
sort of uniform and was holding the handle of a mop.
..He was an old black man, and he peered over the edge of the
gurney to see my tiny little form, IV tubes already threaded
into several veins. I think he
asked the people around me what was wrong with me, then he came closer and
said, “Don’t worry, child. Jesus
is with you. Jesus is with you.” He
held his hand above my head in a kind of blessing. Then the elevator must
have come, because I was being wheeled away. I think the drugs they prepped
me with
were also starting to take effect, because I only remember bits and pieces
after that, at least until a specific point in the actual surgery.
..I don’t
know exactly what happened, but I was suddenly aware of the operating
room. My point of perception was no longer
focused
from within my little body.
Instead, I was perceiving things from a point closer to the ceiling. I
could see the doctors and nurses below, but my attention was focused
more on this
huge shining steel lamp close to me. I stared at it for a little while
because its shape was so strange, with this big arm and a bunch
of bright bulbs inside,
instead of just one. I felt no pain and I did not feel afraid, although
I don’t
think I understood enough about what I was experiencing to really be afraid.
Then my attention was pulled away from the operating room and the fascinating
overhead light by another light. This seemed at once close and far away,
and although I could perceive it from where I was, it was clearly
not a part of
the operating room scene. I stared at it with about the same level of curious
fascination that had held me in thrall with the more conventional light.
And I remember thinking something like, “That
must be what a Jesus is.” I
felt no compulsion to move toward the light, and I don’t remember
anything else after that initial thought about the light. I have a few
hazy memories
about waking up in recovery, but that’s about it. Out of body experiences
seem to come second nature to me, however. Six months before my final open
heart surgery, I had another out of body experience.
This wasn’t connected with a near death experience, however. It just
seemed to be a response to physical trauma.
..For either my birthday or Christmas that year (they’re
both fairly close together), I had gotten a big rocking
horse. Being
an avid fan of the Lone
Ranger television show at the time, I was happily riding said horse and
imagining myself in the opening credits of the series (the
fact that my mother had often
played portions the William Tell Overture on her violin as I rode definitely
facilitated my imagination). The rocking horse was in our living room,
and not far behind the rocking horse was a marble-topped coffee
table. At a crucial
moment in my horse-riding frenzy, I threw both of my arms up over my
head and cried, “Heigh-ho,
Silver, away !” Of course,
given the momentum I’d built up on the horse, my relatively
diminutive size, and the fact that I was no longer gripping the
handholds that sprouted out of either side
of the horse’s head, I flew backwards and whacked my head on the
edge of the marble table.
..My memory cuts to a scene outside. It was so natural for me
to remember the world this way that I did not realize the
peculiar nature of my perspective
until I was recounting the incident with my mother more than twenty
years later. I see the floodlight on the backporch, and
I see the snow falling
steadily
in the beam. To the right and below me, I see my great aunt’s
old green car running. I see my mother come out of the house, moving
very quickly, and
she’s not even wearing a coat, just the turtleneck sweater she’d
been wearing in the living room. She’s cradling me to her chest,
and I’m wrapped in one of my favorite blankets. There’s
a lot of snow on the driveway, and I see my great aunt open the passenger
side door from
the inside, leaning over to hold it out as far as she can so my mother
can get inside.
..My perspective for this entire seen is outside of my body,
about ten feet above the proceedings. I am suspended in
the air, even with the
floodlight
and about
ten feet back from it, away from the house. There’s a kind
of 360 degree quality to my vision as well. It’s qualitatively
different from seeing through my eyes, but even now, I find it hard
to explain exactly how it’s
different.
..I hit my head and went out of body, probably to deal with the
pain. And I never would have realized it if my mother hadn’t
asked how I’d seen the
floodlight, since I’d been bundled tightly with my face pressed
against her chest. I was also allegedly unconscious throughout
this portion of the
incident, as well as through most of the car ride to the hospital.
Which I understand was pretty sketchy itself, since I choose a
stormy winter’s
night to crack my head open. If my hair’s short enough, you
can still see the scar.
- How do you feel
that your out of body and near death experiences have impacted
your life?
..There’s a
lot of literature out there suggesting that near death experiences
can open up or increase a person’s psychic abilities. Although
psychic abilities ran in my family, my mother believed that my
early brushes with death had an influence on the intensity with
which my experiences manifested. After studying more about NDEs
as well as immersing myself in shamanism and the Tibetan Book
of the Dead, I tend to agree. Death and rebirth is a potent,
transformative initiatory experience. Since 1996, I’ve
been trying to come up with a way to harness the awareness and
power that comes from an NDE in a system that modern readers
can study and apply to their own lives.
..I’m
not talking something like that 80's movie -Flatliners-
where medical students
play around with artificially creating NDEs, but something
more ritual-based that uses meditation, guided imagery, and
contact with the spirit world to help guide someone through that
transition
from the realm of flesh to the realm of spirit and back again.
Our society in general has a negative view of death, and
this translates into a deep-seated fear of anything related to
death
and spirits, at least for your average person. Near Death
Experiences are also known for their ability to completely rid
a person
of
their fear of death. I can attest to this. I might not look
forward to the pain associated with the various forms of dying,
but I
know that even the worst pain is only fleeting, and the realm
that opens up on the Otherside is intensely liberating.
..My new book, Walking the Twilight Path, is my formal exploration
of these topics. It’s got a little bit of a Gothic
flair to the rituals and imagery, because I think, barring
actually physical Near Death Experience, one needs to connect
with death by immersing themselves in its iconography. In the book, that
means
meditating on death and our attitudes toward it by meditating on the gorgeous
cemetery photography of Patricia Gonzales. The book will be out this September,
and I think quite a lot of people will be intrigued by its system, which
blends aspects of shamanism, the Tibetan bardo, ritual,
ancient Egyptian concepts,
and spirit communication into a cohesive, modern initiatory tradition. |